What it means to love

You know there are things that you read and you think, “Wow, that’s 2 (or 15) minutes of my life I’ll never get back.” Then there are things that you read that stay tucked away in the pocket of your mind and you can’t shake it loose. I want to share something with you that stayed with me. It was clear, true, and came from a place of such honesty.
While it does sound like instructions, it’s really more about the complexity of loving someone. It’s those unspoken feelings and unexpressed insecurities wrapped up in fear and confusion. Of course, all of this does not hold true for everybody everywhere, but it’s the sentiment behind it that resonates with me. Love is often in the actions, not the words. Then again, sometimes it’s not even in the actions. It’s complicated.
This piece reminds me of what it means to love. While I’m waiting, it’s easy to romanticize about finding the ‘perfect’ person. It’s easy forget about what it feels like to get hurt and feel insecure and disappointed. It’s easy to make yourself feel like, “He’ll understand me. He’ll know everything about me. We’ll always get along. I’ll always be happy.” This piece reminds me that it’s not always that simple.
The point is love is messy and not always straightforward, but when it grabs a hold of your heart…hmmm….

When she walks away from you mad:
Follow her.

When she stares at your mouth:
Kiss her.

When she pushes you or hits you:
Grab her and don’t let go.

When she starts cussing at you:
Kiss her and tell her you love her.

When she’s quiet:
Ask her what’s wrong.

When she ignores you:
Give her your attention.

When she pulls away:
Pull her back.

When you see her at her worst:
Tell her she’s beautiful.

When you see her start crying:
Just hold her and don’t say a word.

When you see her walking:
Sneak up and hug her waist from behind.

When she’s scared:
Protect her.

When she lays her head on your shoulder:
Tilt her head up and kiss her.

When she steals your favourite shirt:
Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night.

When she teases you:
Tease her back and make her laugh.

When she doesn’t answer for a long time:
Reassure her that everything is okay.

When she looks at you with doubt:
Back yourself up.

When she says that she likes you:
She really does more than you could understand.

When she grabs at your hands:
Hold hers and play with her fingers.

When she bumps into you:
Bump into her back and make her laugh.

When she tells you a secret:
Keep it safe and untold.

When she looks at you in your eyes:
Don’t look away until she does.

When she misses you:
She’s hurting inside.

When you break her heart:
The pain never really goes away.

When she says its over:
She still wants you to be hers.

~Author Unknown

 

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